10 Little Firsts In Relationships That Let You Know You’re With The Right Person

The first time you hang out together in silence and it’s super comfortable and they’re on their laptop next to you while you’re catching up on the latest episode of Parks & Rec and you’re just like, this is good, we’re good, and the fact that I don’t feel obligated to talk or entertain or come up with shit to talk about is my everything right now.

The first time you realize that, whoa, you like this person so much more than you ever liked anyone else before, even though they get on your nerves and make you absolutely insane and can get super moody — but you also realize that here in this moment, there’s no one else you’d rather fight with and that’s really cool.

The first time you are completely naked with each other and you don’t feel insecure even a little bit, you’re just like, well, here’s my body and there’s your body, let’s smush them together for a while in the middle of the day, not under the covers, just right in the sunlight, imperfections and whatever else and you’re all, wow, that’s freeing as fuck.

The first time you realize that you’re more yourself with this person than anyone else, even your best friend, which then sends you into an identity crisis, because this person has totally accepted you exactly as you are and you didn’t even realize it until you did that weird single person behavior in front of them and they shrugged it off and said, meh, wanna cook dinner?

The first time you tell them your biggest, darkest secret and they listen and kiss you on the cheek and say thank you for telling them and you’re all, wait, why was I so worried about telling them that? And you think, our relationship just got to a new level of deep because they know that part of me and still love me, maybe even they love me more after knowing and that’s pretty awesome.

The first time you spend a week apart and you are so happy that you miss them, but the very act of missing them isn’t ruining your life like it has with other people and you’re all, healthy relationship achievement unlocked! And then you see them after a week and you have the kind of sex you can only have after realizing you’re in a really healthy, loving relationship with someone you can’t wait to get home to ravage.

The first time you look at them and think, if I was going to promise something as crazy as forever, I’d promise it with you, and you’re like, wow, I get how people decide to get married, because this person actually makes me believe in that forever kind of love that people have been writing sappy poetry about for ages.

The first time you realize that you know this person so well it’s almost as if they are an extension of you, like you know exactly what they’ll order at any restaurant, how they’ll most likely respond to any of your questions, and what their daily routine is. It would be super fucking creepy if it wasn’t actually so adorable.

The first time you’re tempted by someone else, and they’re very good looking, but then you realize that what you have is once in a lifetime and you wouldn’t dare waste that and, while it takes some serious effort and self-control, you put all that energy into making your relationship better — and lo and behold, it does get better. Self win!

The first time you realize that you are with someone that loves you as much as you love them, and you’re all, holy shit, that’s never happened before and you point that out to your significant other and you both high-five and order a pizza.

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8 Things Healthy Couples Don’t Do

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1. Post Negatively About Each Other on Social Media

12-year-olds post negatively about their boyfriends or girlfriends on social media. It’s a catty way to get attention and vent, when the emotionally healthy response is to talk your grievances over with your spouse when the time is right. Don’t fall into the trap of getting others on your side, on social media or otherwise, because healthy marriages only have one side.

2. Make Their Career a Priority Rather Than Their Relationship

Yes, career is important. But as you are being pulled in every direction imaginable, something will get less attention, less time. Something in your life will have to be sacrificed. Your goal is to make sure that “something” isn’t your relationship. You can always find another job, but you only have one chance to make it work with the love of your life.

3. Have All Their ‘Together-Time’ With Technology

Of course there will be plenty of times that you’re together and using technology, but healthy couples know how to put down their phones and computers and turn off the TV to spend quality time together. Healthy couples don’t check Twitter on dinner dates. My husband and I have a rule that we put our phones upstairs each night after work so our dinner or together-time is not interrupted.

4. Avoid Hard Subjects

Relationships are about intimacy. If you can’t talk about the hard subjects, then your intimacy factor is off. There are seasons of marriage that are easy, and other seasons where you must make difficult decisions together. Nothing should be off-limits between the two of you, and conversations should always be approached with an abundance of grace and kindness.

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To the people who love you, you are beautiful already. This is not because they’re blind to your shortcomings but because they see your soul. Your shortcomings then dim by comparison. The people who care about you are willing to let you be imperfect and beautiful, too.

—Victoria Moran (via psych-facts)

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Sometimes we just have to stop, and check our price tag.

Be mindful of your worth. You are precious.

"I am too mixed up to really care. And to think, I used to be sure of things. Me, once I had all the answers. I wish I was a kid again, when I had all the answers." -That was then, this is now by S.E. Hinton #readingAgain

"I am too mixed up to really care. And to think, I used to be sure of things. Me, once I had all the answers. I wish I was a kid again, when I had all the answers." -That was then, this is now by S.E. Hinton #readingAgain

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Verse 1:

Look outside, it’s already light
And the stars ran away with the night
Things were said, words that we’ll try forget
It’s so hard to admit

I know we made mistakes
I see through all the tears
And that’s what got us here

Chorus:

If love is an ocean wide
We’ll swim in the tears we cry
They’ll see us through to the other side
We’re gonna make it

When love is a raging sea
You can hold on to me
We’ll find a way tonight
Love is an ocean wide

Verse 2:

I’ll stay right here, it’s where I’ll always belong
Tied with your arms
Days like this I wish the sun wouldn’t set
I don’t wanna forget

What made us feel this way
You see through all my fears
And that’s what got us here

Bridge:

Wide enough to forget
Even when we think we can’t
Think we can’t

Day 10: One Confession

I love this man. Maybe I haven’t told him everything yet. But I love him. I love how willing he is to wait. I love how he accepts me for who I am and what my past had been. I love how he calms my raging storms. I love how he wants to protect and comfort me from all the fears and struggles I’ve gone and been going through. I love how he sees the future with me. I love million of things about him and about us. And maybe I haven’t told him this yet, but he is the one I want to marry.

I have mastered the art of deadma

I have mastered the art of deadma

Day 9: Two smileys that describe your life right now

1. :): *Because HAPPY and SAD*

2. :| *Because I DON’T CARE*

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Day 8: Three turn on’s

1. Eloquent, sweet and gentleman

2. Close to his family and to God

3. Generous and keeps no record of generosity

I’m never gonna let you go
Your love’s gonna save my soul
And after all we’ve been through fire and smoke
And through it all we’ve kept a hold of hope
While the world let go

Day 7: Four turn off’s

1. Dishonesty

2. Giving false promises and assumptions

3. Unhygienic

4. Pretentious

Model: Charlimagne Verallo

Model: Charlimagne Verallo